Growing into grey... with gratitude


Helloooo! Yes, it's yours truly! And with something a little lighter for today... sort of...

Somehow, small though it is in the grand scheme of things, it does feel a big moment in a woman's life when she puts down the hair dye bottle. No more L'Oreal color in a box. No more chemicals! Embrace the grey!

As I approached my 45th birthday at the end of last year, I gave myself a little challenge to see how long I could go without coloring my hair. At the 6 month stage of NO DYE, I wasn't looking too good. I was sporting a very ugly tricolor effect of lots of greys, streaks of the old auburn color (from a box, which I'd using the last 3 years for "fun"...Why did I do that?? REGRET!), and my natural brown trying to still peek through. A very blotchy, uneven look that just got worse and worse. A mess, basically! I looked like a calico kitten, but not so cute. haha! 

So recently I plucked up some courage and went to a local hair salon for help with my hair. The best option was a hair color correction treatment. Or wait potentially two--or more!--years for things to grow out naturally. YIKES! In that moment I didn't feel like I was growing older gracefully. I kind of wanted to cry. I didn't want to look ugly for two years--or more. I wanted some of the outside to look like what I've been trying to cultivate on the inside... VANITY! Lord, help me... 

Well, I opted for the color correction. Unfortunately, chemicals were involved... *sigh* ... But after two hours, a very kind stylist removed a great percentage of the red/auburn color, my natural brown was more in focus, and the many silver greys making a very spirited effort to shine. I'm hoping this will be my last dance with hair chemicals! My hair was also getting very long, so I had some inches cut off, which also helped. I've been coloring my own hair for 15+ years. It saves money. I've been cutting my own hair for 3 years. It saves money. But letting the professionals take over for a bit, did boost my confidence. My hair hasn't looked this nice in a long time. 

Having been a natural dark brown brunette all my life, I didn't know that growing grey could look or feel this good! I'm wishing now I'd stopped playing with the red colors. Wishing I didn't color my hair so long, that I'd been brave enough to stop coloring sooner. And, on a side note--makeup... I'm down to occasionally using a wisp of foundation powder and dash of mascara--that's it. I didn't know I could have the courage to leave the house without makeup! haha... Wishing I'd stopped the makeup use sooner too. 

Anyway, a silly little ramble this... but if someone--"of a certain age" as we are--sees or reads this, maybe they'll be inspired to stop coloring their hair. Let the greys grow. Be kind to their hair. Stop the chemicals. I'll keep this light. I won't go deep into the dark side of hair color and hair care products, cosmetics too. It's all bad stuff--very bad. We wouldn't drink poison or anything toxic on purpose. But we put toxic things on our skin, on our face, in our hair. Let us be kind to ourselves, our bodies, our planet.

The real beauty is on the inside. Sometimes we forget that. The exterior refinements we tinker with can distract us from God's already beautiful package. He's designed each of us uniquely. We humans like to be unique. But we forget the speciallness we've been given. We try to use commercial products, chemicals, surgery, and more, to enhance, adjust or even completely alter our appearance.

What would happen if we embraced our natural beauty? If we stopped playing with the products and chemicals? What if when looking in the mirror, instead of saying, "I look a mess!" that we say "Thank you, God." 


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  1. I don't think I have dyed my hair in over 10 years now Tracy, and I have been letting it go grey naturally. I love the colour of it and embrace it. I still have a lot of dark brown hair and I sometimes wish it was all silver, instead of salt and pepper. I found a great source for information on making your own natural makeups. I am not sure I could feel comfortable without wearing makeup. Oddly enough I never used to wear any, but I started wearing it about 19 years ago now and I feel naked without it. In any case here is the link: https://helloglow.co/7-natural-homemade-makeup-switches/

    By the way I think you are beautiful just the way you are! xoxo

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    1. Thank you so much, Marie... you are so sweet! :) In a way, I'm wishing I could transition right to silver, as I think the salt & pepper look will take time to get over... haha! But tiny, steps, one a at a time, on year at a time. ;) Thank you for the great article on natural, homemade makes! I've tried a few things, with mixed success. I don't look good in things made with cocoa powder as browns tones don't look nice on my skin. A stumbling block sometimes is ingredients, as ofen there's and ingredient or other I can't get. But I keep trying to find something that works, and I would like to keep trying, as I'd like to not buy any more commcerially made makeups.

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  2. Totally hear you !41 here... I am blessed that I never dyed my hair. Silver is starting! I do need a hair cut though ! Getting too long /heavy / in the way. You look lovely. It can be good to go to a salon sometimes. ♡ HUGS♡♡♡♡

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    1. Thanks, Elizabeth--so kind! You were wise not to color your hair. In some ways I regret ever coloring at all. I started going grey before I was 30, and felt very sensitive about it at the time. And then once hitting the bottle, it's hard to stop. ;) Thank you for the inspiration to be brave and go grey! ((HUGS))

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  3. You look simply lovely, Tracy. A wonderful photo! Wonderful you! I do color and probably will for awhile, though go lighter until it can phase out. It's hard to acknowledge that! But since I've retired, I've also retired most of the make up unless I'm going out. A little liner but not much else. It sure saves time!

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    1. So nice, Jeanie... thanks! :) It is hard to acknowledge when we go grey, and what we decide to do about it. Aging isn't easy... LOL! But goodness yes, the less fuss, the more time we save. No/less make up means I can leave the house in ten minutes sometimes. Better than the 30 minutes or more it used to take... We are funny creatures! ;)

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  4. You look lovely and very classy with your hair and the colour. I am in my 60's and just starting to go grey. I was using a hair colourant - non permanent just to give it a bit of shine and pep up a little but they stopped making it and now I cant find it in the shops... I saw that as a sign, and kind of wondering if thats a message or hint for me to stop using it and just go grey naturally. I feel "washed" out a bit without that hint of colour but maybe its just a case of getting used to it. With makeup I have always just used a tiny dab of powder to stop the shine and from time to time a dab of blush. Thats it! I dont like the way my face feels with makeup and on big occassions will use eye makeup, but cant wait to get home to wash itoff! So basically a non make up person here! I've still got the hair dilema to figure out though! Your post was very truthful and inspirational!

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    1. Sooo sweet, Everydaythings...thank you! And thank you so much for sharing you experiences! Like you, I don't like the feel of a full face of make up, and can't wait to get home and wash it all off. Same with hair products, never liked them, never used them much... again, couldn't wait to wash it out! LOL... Beauty products are wasted on me! I know what you mean though, as I'm experience the feeling of looking a bit washed out, and getting used to this newer look. It's not easy, but we'll get there! Make the best of what we've been given! :)

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  5. You look beautiful, Tracy and that style really suits you. I think that you were brave to go so long without colour, but can understand needing some help with the colour correction. Marie x

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    1. Thanks Marie... I'm not about the brave part, though! ;) haha...

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  6. I keep trying to "get off the bottle" but just can't stand the grow out period. I'm 62 now so I am sure there is a lot of gray under there, just not sure how much. lol I also do my own hair as I can't use ammonia based color, I have to use the oil based and salons don't use that. So I keep trying. I will wait 4 months between sometimes just to avoid having to deal with it. I use a light brown eye shadow to cover the roots in the front of my hair along my bangs and part. Maybe I should go a month or two more and then go short with the hair. That is a thought.
    Thanks for visiting my page. :)

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    1. Thank you for sharing of your own experience too, Judy!Cutting hair short is an easy option for hair that's wonky with coloring, and I thought about it very briefly. I've been growing my hair out for a while, so I didn't want to go very short again. But WOW--using light brown eye shadow to cover a bit of grey at the roots of hair--terrific idea!

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  7. instead of a 'word' for each new year there was a time that I had a 'trait' that I tackled instead! I'll never forget the year it was vanity. I decided I wanted to get rid of it once and for all.
    I had colored my hair for years. I decided to cold turkey stop that! I keep my hair short and have for years in a pixie cut as you know. so it wasn't very long before it was 'silver' LOL.
    never call it grey! but the real kicker for me was going cold turkey on eye makeup. I was never one to wear foundation. just a little blush which I still wear. I want to look healthy not dead! LOL! there are even Vegan beauty products now and I wear a cream blush of that kind.
    but wow. the hard part was giving up the eyeliner me. the bare eyes me looked as different as night and day! seriously. like two different people!
    did I have the courage? walking into the office the first time and seeing the looks... well.
    that's why they call it VANITY! LOL!
    one of the men even asked me if I felt sick! after explaining "nope. this is just the real me." I actually started feeling FREE for the first time in my adult life! even my Bob rarely had seen me without my eye liner. I had given up mascara long ago because of the cruelty to animal testing. our human health is not the only DARK side to cosmetics. animals suffer terribly in all of it. just so we can be more "beautiful."
    at least thankfully for those who can't give it up at least there are many now that don't test on animals. but the majority do. it's cruelty in the extreme. and for what?
    and you know... it's a strange thing. I walk around now completely me. but back then I had to even get to know myself again. and it's so worth it! and finally people got used to the 'real' me and they said they liked it. and if they were just being kind I didn't care. it's how you feel inside about it all that matters! and I think you look beautiful Tracy.
    because you ARE beautiful! inside and out. :)
    and surely if I've kicked vanity to the curb I can start work on overly wordy COMMENTS!
    LOLOL! XOXO

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    1. Wow, Tammy... thank you so much for sharing so much! I really admire your courage to tackle something about yourself that you felt needed "adjusting" or even eliminating--that's brave! We're works in progress all our lives, aren't we? LOL... Some things take longer to tackle that others. So I'm working on the vanity too. But don't you work too much on curbing the long comments--I love 'em! ;) ((HUGS))

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  8. Good for you! It does looks most wonderful. I have never dyed my hair, just because I knew I didn't want chemicals on my head for so many years. I started turning grey in my 30's. No make up either except a bit of eye brow because I don't have much, a little eye liner on the days I leave the house, and a bit of lipstick usually in the morning and that is it. I think I am a minimalist when it come to those sort of things. I do splurge on good hair cuts though.

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    1. How wonderful that you NEVER have colored your hair, Marilyn! I like your low-maintenance, minimal makeup. I've been using a little eyebrow pencil occasionally too, as my eyebrows are "disappearing," which translates to meaning my eyebrows are going grey too... haha!

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  9. You look lovely Tracy! I try to do my best and to buy Vegan beauty products and even hair dye, but I’ve tried the ‘silver’ look and it’s just not me. I applaud you for your decisions!

    (A cinical biologist once told me there is no bigger contribution to the world and Mother Nature than not having children. I first felt offended and thought he was crazy, but he explained that children are the next generation pollutants and grandchildren the subsequent pollutants. It’s one way of looking at it, isn’t it? ) ;-)

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    1. Thanks, dutchcomfort... Going silver is not very everyone. A lot of it is about comfort level and channeling the inner beauty. WOW--that is quite a big statement about children being the next pollutants... radical though it sounds, it is rather true too when one really thinks about it! I guess that makes parents and grandparents pollutant enablers??!! haha...

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  10. Oh my dear friend, you are so awesome. I really loved all of this one. Your photo is lovely too. Here I am at 72 years old and still not deciding on going totally grey. My solution is to wear a wig or wiglet. My hair is quite thin; probably from dyeing it for so many years. I think if I just let it grow out; I could almost be totally white, which would be good. You made a good case for getting a way from chemicals and etc. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and fun personality on this one.
    Loving thoughts, hugs and sweet blessings sent your way sweet sister in Christ!

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  11. Very empowering post! You are looking beautiful as usual!

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